On August 12, 2007 RealEuphoria Blog (that I really enjoy and agree so often with) published a blog entitled "Faggot. reason behind hatred".
He posted a vid by Nicholas who has put into words his feelings about the hypocrisy that many gay people live and speak when it comes to hatred. RealEuphoria states "I believe truly that people have a right to be themselves, however I have a problem when people try to lump everyone into the same box. Realise that everyone is different! I may be gay but I am an individual first. I do not believe in the gay community and I do not believe in those who profess to speak for me. I am a human being who doesn’t fit into a box. I do not like stereotypes as I do not fit into them and wouldn’t want to. I am just me. Accept me or leave me alone."
I replied with my comment, "Certainly a most committed speaker, with a fair and reasonable argument. We are all individuals and the stereotypes do not reflect who we are or our aspirations and those stereotypes do make our lives more difficult within the whole community.
However, those “stereotypical” people as shown in the clip and others also have the right to be treated as individuals. They are flambouyant, they are out there in the public eye, they have the atttention of the media and for many in the wider community, are seen as being the typical homosexual.
What we need to do is live our lives as gay men in the way we want to live so that at least our families, our friends, our neighbours, our work colleagues and fellow students know what being gay really means.
For me, it means being able to love another man, totally; sensually, sexually, physically, intellectually and as a life-partner because that’s how my brain works.
Let the drag queens, the fashionistas, the bears, the leather-men etc etc live their lives their way expressing themselves as they wish, but like the man in the clip, those are not my way.
I am ME - love me or leave me.
I felt that my thoughts on the video clip and RealEuphoria's comments needed to be published here as well. I hope RealEuphoria agrees with me.